My daughter emailed me this...the daughter who is about to become a mother! She got the email from her mother-in-law.
Both men & women, sons & daughters - need to read this
BEING A MOTHER...After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me
totake another woman out to dinner and a movie. She said, 'I love you, but I know this other woman
loves you and would love to spend some time with you.'
The other woman that my wife wanted me to
visit was my MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years,but the demands of my work and my three children
had made it possible to visit her only occasionally.
That night I called to invite her to go out
for dinner and a movie.
'What's wrong, aren't you well,' she asked?
My mother is the type of woman who suspects that
a late night call or a surprise invitation is a
sign of bad news.
'I thought that it would be pleasant to spend sometime with you,' I responded. 'Just the two of us.'She thought about it for a moment, and then said,'I would like that very much.'
That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. When I arrived at
her house, I noticed that she, too, seemed to be
nervous about our date. She waited in the door with her
coat on. She had curled her hair and was wearing
the dress that she had worn to celebrate her
last wedding anniversary.
She smiled from a face that was as radiant as
an angel's. 'I told my friends that I was going to
go out with my son, and they were impressed,' she said,as she got into the car. 'They can't wait to
hear about our meeting.'
We went to a restaurant that, although
not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took
my arm as if she were the First Lady. After we
sat down, I had to read the menu. Her eyes could
only read large print. Half way through the entries,
I lifted my eyes and saw Mom sitting there staring
at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips. 'It was
I who used to have to read the menu when you
were small,' she said. 'Then it's time that you relax
and let me return the favor,' I
responded.
During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation- -nothing extraordinary but catching upon recent events of each other's life. We talked
so much that we missed the movie.
As we arrived at her house later, she said, '
I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me
invite you.' I agreed.
'How was your dinner date?' asked my wife when
I got home. 'Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined,' I answered.
A few days later, my mother died of a
massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I
didn't have a chance to do anything for her.
Some time later, I received an envelope with
a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same
place mother and I had dined. An attached note said: '
I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that
I could be there; but nevertheless, I paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife.You will never know what that night meant for me.
I love you, son.'
At that moment, I understood the importance
of saying in time: 'I LOVE YOU' and to give our
loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life
is more important than your family. Give them the
time they deserve, because these things cannot be put
off till 'some other time.'
Somebody said it takes about six weeks to get
back to normal after you've had a baby....
somebody doesn't know that once you're a mother, 'normal' is history.
Somebody said you learn how to be a mother
by instinct .. somebody never took a three-year-old shopping.
Somebody said being a mother is boring ....somebody never rode in a car driven by a teenager with a driver's permit.
Somebody said if you're
a 'good' mother, your child will 'turn out good'.... somebody thinks a child comes with
directions and a guarantee.
Somebody said 'good' mothers never raise
their voices .... somebody never came out the back
door just in time to see her child hit a golf
ball through the neighbor's kitchen window.
Somebody said you don't need an education to be
a mother.... somebody never helped a fourth
grader with his math.
Somebody said you can't love the second child
as much as you love the first .... somebody
doesn't have two children.
Somebody said a mother can find all the answers
to her child-rearing questions in the books....somebody never had a child stuff beans up his
nose or in his ears.
Somebody said the hardest part of being a
mother is labor and delivery (or going through a long adoption p
rocess).... somebody never watched her 'baby' get on the bus for the first day of kindergarten ... or on a plane headed for military 'boot camp.'
Somebody said a mother can do her job with her eyes closed and one hand tied behind her back..somebody never organized seven giggling Brownies to sell cookies.
Somebody said a mother can stop worrying after
her child gets married....s
omebody doesn't know
that marriage adds a new son or daughter-in-law to
a mother's heartstrings.
Somebody said a mother's job is done when her
last child leaves home....somebody never
had grandchildren.
Somebody said your mother knows you love her,
so you don't need to tell her.... somebody isn't
a mother.
Pass this along to all the 'mothers' in your
life and to everyone who ever had a mother. This
isn't just about being a mother; it's about
appreciating the people in your life while you have them....
no matter who that person is.